Life Coach: How to Disagree Agreeably

Created: August 31, 2018 07:30 AM

Have you ever argued over a disagreement with someone else? Life Coach Pam-Solberg Tapper was back on GMN Friday with advice on how to agree disagreeably.

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"In today's work world or even at home, we're going to disagree with other people," she says. "We want to make sure we don't let it get into being conflict."

Solberg-Tapper has laid this out in five easy steps:

1. Listen to their point of view

  • Avoid cutting people off.
  • Never tell them they are wrong. Just hear them out.

2. Acknowledge what you heard them say

  • Use phrases like 'I hear what you are saying,' 'you have some points that make sense,' or 'I hear where you are coming from.'

3. Pause Briefly

  • Use silence effectively. Do not start out with “but, however, nevertheless."
  • Negative filler words will negate the fact that you are trying to hear them out and can put them on the defensive and break down communication.

4. State your point of view

  • Start with phrases such as, 'In my experience,' or, 'Have you considered,' or, 'The data I collected shows.'
  • Be sure to include evidence, facts, examples, personal experience, or data to substantiate your viewpoint.     

5. Ask a question

  • Examples of this kind of question include, 'What are your thoughts on this approach?,' or 'How might this work in your situation?'

Pam Solberg-Tapper, MHSA, PCC

Executive Coach/Leadership Development

Coach for Success, Inc.

Office: 218-729-0772

Mobile: 218-340-3330



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